Your right, We defiantly need to stop being so hard on ourselves.  No one really cares either.  I never look at someone and think.... "oh they have a pound to many"  In fact most of the time I see a woman with curves, even big ones, and think she is so beautiful.   I was not blessed with curves.  Im like a board.   You need to stop looking at how much you weigh.  I know you want to see the pounds go down.  But look at the workout we do!!  Its a mega muscler builder man!!! and it is HARD.  You look great.  The more down on yourself you are the more weight you tend to gain.  Thats a fact of life.  Because we stress about it.  Easier said than done I know.  I work out like a Fein when I'm stressed.  I cant help it.  But outside of being stressed I actually really really enjoy a good workout.  You feel so good afterword.  Im single and alone.  Being strong and being able to do that last sumo squat makes me feel like "booya, I can do this!"  Stupid I know.  Its all in my head.
Dont you think we should be rewarded differently for having kids?  Like ok you went through ten months of UUGG! and pushed a kid out....... poof! beautiful skin...... and for every year you raise a loving child who is happy, poof again! abs, thighs, butt.....you name it.  Like car insurance.  the longer you go without an accident the less you have to pay.  LOL

I think, this is the body I have.  I accept its little imperfections even though I dislike them.   I am proud of my abs.  They took hard work! You be proud of your fabulous legs and rear end.  Appreciate what we like, ignore what we cant change.  
I love you...and as much as you hate me pushing you while we work out.....you know you love me.  and I love you even when your crabby.  :-)